Proverbs 6:20 My son, keep your father's commands
       and do not forsake your mother's teaching.

21 Bind them upon your heart forever;
       fasten them around your neck.

22 When you walk, they will guide you;
       when you sleep, they will watch over you;
       when you awake, they will speak to you.

God's design was for us to hear our parent's words so they would watch over us, guide us, and to speak to us. It was for our help not our hurt.

The enemy has used this principal to attack us instead of gives us guidance and correction.

When we teach about soul -ties we talk about the strange almost uncontrolable power the person has over us because of the tie or bond we have with them.

Psychologist often speak about the tape of your mother or father's voice playing and replaying of their rules to condemn us and make us feel bad about ourselves.

It is clear from this scripture that words can be bound to the heart and they speak to us.

They can be around our necks as a harness to guide us in the right directions or they can be a noose to force us to do the things and think ways that God didn't intence for us to thing. The scripture often uses the neck to talk about our will. So these words can infleunce our will to make choices.

Those words can be words that protect us from going the wrong directions and therefore guide us into a healthy prosperous future that is bright

or

they can be words that condemn us, accuse us and abuse us causing us to see no future or giving us a fearful future that holds the lack of our needs being met.

Our parents are to be honored for all they have done that is righteous and good. But what about the bad stuff? They tried but often failed miserably in some areas.

1.Recognise those areas where your parents didn't represent Godly fathering or mothering.

2. Challenge the rules that you hear in your head with your mother or father's, or even an influential authority figure's (voice speaking words) and see if they are bringing accusation, fear, condemnation or feelings of bitterness, or wrath. These are signals that the words are not from God.

3. Break the soul tie by forgiving the person, speaking out..I cut the soultie between myself and ________ in the name of Jesus, I command any demonic that has come in through this bond to leave me now in the name of Jesus, and I bless the godly tie between myself and ______.

4. Stop continuing to bind their words to your heart. The walk out is when the next time rolls around and your brain goes into automatic, you must stop and say no way, I no longer agree with that and choose to agree with God's way. I bind God's words to my heart.

Our brain wants to automatically revert back to the old way of thinking. In the past you had the demonic reinforcing the old way of thinking but after cutting soul ties, the demonic is no longer forcing that strong influence on you to believe what you did in the past and to continue in the old patterns of living. Now you are free to choose a new way.

So now you can turn off the tapes and get new God tapes to play. They always bring you encouragement to make the right choice and to d the right thing. His ways are not grievesome or heavey. His burden is light and He carries the load when we are yoked together with him. Again another sign that we are to have something around our necks to guide us just note the noose of the enemy.